Size matters let’s just admit it.
The size of our burgers. The size of our engines. The size of our muscles. The size of our muscle. As much as people say it doesn’t, it does. Heck, even the size of our house tells the world something, I’ve never heard of a spouse say we need a smaller house.
Am I right?
Some evidence suggests size might not be the only factor to consider. Which is great news for us men. Below are 5 areas where we guys can put some focus on us, to shore up any perceived inadequacy. These 5 tips will not be the normal stuff you see on social media that embrace the idea - ”happy wife, happy life”, these tips are focused on YOUR health.
The issue is more about compatibility.
Currently there are 8 billion people on Earth. Yes, “B” for billion (Riddle & Treisman, 2022). And with the average life expectancy rising from 72.9 years to 77.2 years, happiness is about compatibility.
The differences are seen in miles of DNA code. Every woman is made different, just as every man is made different. With that there is some science that says that there’s a right fit for everybody, so size does matter just a bit probably. If size matters, maybe you’re a fit or you’re not the right fit for a partner.
So, let’s talk about size - according to Medical News Today “the average erect penis is about 33% longer the average vagina” (Nall, 2023). If these numbers are correct us men are usually too big at the start of intimate relations. The good thing is your partner’s vagina can and will adjust to the size of your member. So, in a roundabout way size isn’t a big deal.
If you are still worried about size of your manhood, or having any anxiety on the topic, check out this video by Rena Malik, M.D. on YouTube
Side thought: Let’s be real, sex was never a subject we were taught growing up, it’s something that we’ve had to learn on the fly.
Is that fair, Questionable.
Maybe there needs to be a different kind of sex education, maybe there needs to be an intimacy class that’s given, or maybe there needs to be a consent class. Maybe that’s why there’s all sorts of self-help books out there.
I’ve found great value in The 5 Love Languages to help get my head out the clouds and back in the game.
But not in the game of sex, rather in the game of my sexual health needs. Not to ruin the book, it helps you discover the type of affection you desire. It has nothing to do with size of genitalia or sex positions. (I just don’t want you to be misled).
What it does do is talk about compatibility.
So, what is compatibility, well, I would imagine that it’s several things really. A List of traits that share pleasing feelings in you. Yes, I said feelings guys. We do not like that word, do we? Feelings were for girls, “we are men”. However even the strongest Navy SEAL will be open about feelings. I bet we can be open too. I surmise that there’s a bunch of criteria to be compatible. If you hold high scoring spots in many of compatibilities, maybe a deficiency can be overlooked.
But even your deficiency can be worked on.
No, that doesn’t mean we can correct the size of our genitalia. But that does mean we can control intimacy. We can control passion. We can control the drive that pushes us forward. We can control our presence with our partners.
So, what are the factors that could lead to a happy, intimate life with a spouse, girlfriend, loved one, or significant other?
Five traits of successful compatibility.
1. Compatibility
2. Intimacy.
3. Passion
4. Drive
5. Our Presence
Over the next few weeks, we will dive into these traits to solidify our place on this planet and in our souls.
References
Chapman, G. (n.d.). The 5 love Languages.
Nall, R. (2023, March 31). How deep is a vagina? What to know. Retrieved from Medical News Today: https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/321220
Riddle, K., & Treisman, R. (2022, November 15). There are now 8 billion people on Earth, according to a new U.N. report. Retrieved from NPR: https://www.npr.org/2022/11/15/1136709784/there-are-now-8-billion-people-on-earth-according-to-a-new-u-n-report
